Shoulda Woulda Coulda

We say This phrase while we are looking back and feeling like we made a mistake, or didn’t do something we  should have done or could have done or would have done—if we had today’s wisdom.  It’s Regret.   Moreover, if we could do it over we’d do something differently—and presumably make a better decision with a better outcome.  For some, it haunts them.  They can’t get past it.   Amen?

~But is this realistic?  Given a do-over, would we make a different or better decision?

~Why did we make the decision or omission we did in the first place?